You may have heard the expression “it’s your day, do it your way,” as you’ve been planning your wedding. And this is true! It’s a time to express your true self, be authentic, and drown out the expectations of others. On the other hand, it’s easy to take this concept too far.
Here are a few tips about being a gracious bride:
Understand your guests’ perspective. How does the day’s schedule look, from your guests’ viewpoint? Awkward gaps of time between the ceremony and reception are difficult for guests, and asking them to drive more than 30 minutes between locations is usually too much. Try, as much as possible, to craft your day’s schedule with the guests in mind.
Jump on those thank you notes. Guests are excited to get you something wonderful in honor of your marriage, and they can’t wait to hear if you not only received it, but liked it! Write a conversational, personalized note and respond as quickly as possible.
Give others grace. Just know that weddings are an emotional time for your close relatives, especially parents, siblings and close friends. In addition to the joy, there can also be this strange sense of “loss,” that they’re losing you, and this can bring up unexpected emotions. As much as possible, when people around you are driving you crazy, give them grace and, maybe, a warm hug.